There comes a time when all good things have to end but when it comes to relationships the usually ending is nothing but pain and heart break. We have all been there and it is important to remember we will be time and time again. It never gets easier no matter how many times your friends will tell you it’s time to move on with your life.
IF you have recently been dumped and are wondering why she suddenly doesn’t want anything to do with you then please pay attention.
One of the worst things you can do right now is to try and demand answers from her. If your ex doesn’t want to speak to you right now you need to back off and give her some space. There is nothing worse than a bitter and jaded ex boyfriend who won’t let go.
You don’t want to become that guy. Things can spiral out of control quickly if you let your emotions dictate your actions right now.
She has her reasons for leaving and no matter how honest she says she has been giving you her reasons you can bet the true reasons are some you don’t want to hear right now.
You see, for some people it is a lot easier to run away instead of being honest and truthful. As you read this I want you to know that if there was something you did that caused her to walk away then you already have a good idea why she is avoiding you and wants nothing to do with you.
If she suddenly left and is now longer in contact with you then you need to be careful if you are adamant that you want answers and some closure. Most of the time it can lead to more pain and devastating, especially if she has left you for someone else or has been cheating on you.
The truth can be an ugly thing and it is something you really need to think about before seeking and demanding answers.
Maybe she isn’t that into you anymore? Maybe she has found someone who makes her heart flutter? Maybe she just can’t put up with your BS anymore and doesn’t want a confrontation.
It’s time to be completely honest with yourself. Love can be blind and usually we do not see our faults or have justifications for how we behave, much of the time, completely unaware that our partners are breaking inside.
As difficult as it is for you right now you need to ask yourself if you really want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. Don’t let your emotions and love you have for her cloud your judgement. Do not let rejection and fear create more issues in your life right now.
As hard as it is at the moment you must avoid spamming her with text messages and calls in the hopes that she will return your calls. Don’t become one of those guys and most importantly don’t be the guy who is going to sit by the phone waiting for their ex to magically come back.
The only way to give yourself a good chance to get answers is to let things cool down.
Sure you deserve answers, we all do after a relationship ends but you must keep your cool and avoid pushing her away permanently.
You can always send her a polite text message, leave her a voice message or an email telling her that you accept the fact that your relationship is over. You will be surprised how well this can work to melt away some of the tension and fear she may have when deciding if she should speak to you again.Read More
I can’t begin to tell you about the number of men who eagerly await for their former girlfriend’s to return one day. It is difficult to let go and accept the fact that your relationship is over but it is something you must do and you can’t get around it.
If you are screaming right now, “but I want her back” then it is even more important to accept the break up and understand that your relationship is over for the time being.
The last thing you want is to become a punk. You can’t sit around waiting by the phone and praying for her to come back to you! Not only will this destroy your mindset, confidence and self esteem but it can lead to more pain than you are currently going through.
I am not here to tell you that your girlfriend won’t come back, in fact there is probably a good chance the both of you can reunite in time but you can’t be her emergency plan.
What I mean by this is you can’t let her have her cake and eat it to. If she ended the relationship you don’t want her to feel as if she can go out with other guys, date, get into other relationships and then feel if they don’t work out that she can always come back to you.
What does that say about you if you are willing to put yourself in a position where you will be her emergency plan! If it happens once it can happen a dozen times!
I am not saying this to be cruel or for you to be cruel to her but simply for you to see that sitting around and not getting on with your life will probably do more harm than good for your chances to get back together.
Put a smile on your face and get out there again. This doesn’t mean that you have to completely forget about her, hell, it doesn’t even mean you have to grab as many women as you can to numb the pain. All I am trying to say is that you need to put a smile on your face and don’t let your life spiral out of control and allow the pain to grow and develop into an untamed.
Do you want to feel as if your ex will do whatever she wants and can come back to you as if nothing happened? You don’t want to be in a relationship like that where she comes and goes when she pleases.
Tell her that you have accepted the break up and make her think that you have moved on. Go out with friends and family and even get a rumour back to her that you are dating someone or interested in someone, this can make her think twice about whether or not you will be still waiting around for her!Read More
Losing a lover can be one of the most difficult things we can ever go through. While they say that time heals all wounds, these wounds can quickly be opened up when we bump into an old flame.
Many of us will remember ex girlfriend and the amazing and wonderful times we shared together even if a break up was heated and things ended on a messy note.
Thinking About The Good Old Times
The fact is that many of us will think about old flames and wonder what they are up to and how they are. Almost all guys are guilty of this but this is not to say that there is anything wrong with it, it is completely naturally especially if you once loved the person more than life itself.
What do you do when you bump into one of these old flames or one calls you from out of the blue to see how you have been? Should you call one of them yourself and see how she is just for good old times sake? This is one of the most difficult questions to answer and that’s because there are so many factors to consider.
What Has Bought On These Feelings?
Why do you want to speak to her? Why does she want to speak to you? Are you currently in a relationship, what about her?
Regardless of your present situation it can be quiet easy to start thinking about a former lover and how great it would be to catch up and see how they are, especially if you never completely let go.
The question I often get asked is if couples should get back together years after breaking up especially when things ended badly. While there is no hard and fast rules the first thing you need to ask yourself is why you thinking about the person in the first place.
People can hang onto great times and never want to let them go, sometimes simply the idea about seeing a former flame is enough to make your heart flutter!
Everyone is different and no two relationships are the same but this does not mean that you should let your heart and wishful thinking take over.
If you are keen to speak to a former lover and she what she is up to or if she has gotten in contact with you then you need to play it cool and have no preconceived notions about what will happen.
Approach With Caution!
There are many stories of couples who have gotten back together after being apart for years. Life can make us mature, force us to grow up and become better people. In these cases these couples often see the errors in their ways, what went wrong and exactly what they needed to do to turn things around. Relationships take their toll and happy relationships take a lot of work, there is no escaping this fact.
I can’t tell you what to do and whether or not getting back together is a good idea, what I can tell you is that you need to be completely honest with yourself. Don’t set your hopes high about getting back together, play it cool, play it by ear and most importantly, do not think you can pick up where you left off.
Good luck to you no matter what you decide. I want you to know that it is not impossible to get back together and stay together. There are many couples out there that are now happily married with a family when they were once separated by time, distance or both!Read More
If you find that your ex girlfriend is doing everything in her power to avoid you then chances are you have stepped on her toes and she is pissed!
Regardless of the reason for your break up or who ended it, the fact is that most ex’s will struggle to remain friends after a break up no matter how good their intentions are.
The last thing you want to do right now is to cut her out of your life for good right? Well I don’t want to be the one to tell you that you may have already crossed the line. If you have been harassing your ex girlfriend and leaving dozens of voice mails, text messages and emails then you need to stop immediately.
I don’t know your reasons for wanting to speak to your ex. Maybe you want to have her as a friend in your life or maybe you are trying to talk her into giving you another chance? Whatever your reasons you need to accept the fact that your relationship is over and your ex girlfriend does not owe you anything. As horrible as it may sound the fact is that your relationship is over and if you are lucky enough to remain friends it will be a decision you both need to make together.
One of the most common reasons an ex girlfriend will ignore their former lover is that the guy is not getting the message and refusing to accept the fact their their relationship has ended. She has her reasons for ignoring you and while it might come as a shock you need to take a few steps back and take a look at your actions. Look their your ex’s eyes and see if you would do exactly what she is doing to you if the shoe was on the foot.
A great way to turn things around is to stop all contact and chill! Whether your break up was last week or last month, you can’t harass your ex girlfriend and expect her to want to talk to you. There is nothing you can do to FORCE her to pick up the phone but you can most definitely improve your odds.
There are some great techniques out there online these days that will make her feel compelled to call you back and speak to you. You need to be very careful when you use these techniques as they are extremely effective and you must approach with caution.
No matter the reason you have for wanting to talk to her you need to remember be completely honest with yourself and take a look at your behaviour. Chances are you are not doing yourself any favours if you have become a possessive ex boyfriend who does not want to let go and give her the space she is looking for.Read More
Do you find yourself struggling to discover ways that you can convince your ex to take you? I want you to know that you need to approach with caution or run the risk of ruining what could be your last chance to reunite. Let’s look at how to get back together after a break up tips that work extremely well.
You need to be careful to not let your emotions spiral under control and allow you to say or do something that you may quickly regret! Keeping a cool head is critical in order to take the right course of action and give yourself the best possible chance to get your ex back.
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Here are some important steps you need to consider in order to turn things around.
1. Controlling Your Emotions At All Times: Many break ups are the result of a big fight or an argument therefore it is important that you let your emotions subside and this includes anger, heartbreak and fear of losing your ex for good. In many cases a break up can simply be a huge warning shot of potential unhappiness or pain in a relationship and that things must change as soon as possible if it is to continue.
Stay cool, calm and collected at all times, break ups don’t have to be final and you can get back together if you play your cards right!
2. Give Your Ex Space & Distance: One of the biggest mistakes ex’s make is trying desperately in contact with their ex in fear of losing all contact with them. This is one of the biggest mistakes you can make and can quickly backfire. You need to accept this time apart and use it to your advantage and not as a sign that you have given up on the relationship.
3. Understand That Your Relationship Is Broken: Although you may want to get back together after a break up as fast as possible the reality is that your relationship can not simply pick up where it left off. Your ex has their reasons for leaving and these need to be addressed, understand and accepted.
What you need to know is that it can be the smallest problem that has grown into a bigger one, understanding that you should know that mending your relationship for the better is indeed possible.
4. Honesty and Maturity: You can’t use the blame game to accept responsibility for anything and everything you think went wrong, this can infuriate your ex and show them that you are not understanding their feelings and concerns. It is time to look in the mirror and accept responsibility for any faults as well as stand tall and be mature at all times no matter how much pain you are going through right now.
5. Avoid Asking Your Ex to Take You Back: If you are still in contact with your ex you must avoid the temptation to ask for another chance. The key is to make your ex want to come back and need you back not by trying to convince your ex to take you back. Doing so can make your ex feel pressured and lead them to pull away creating a bigger distance and divide between you both.
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