Don’t Be Your Ex Girlfriend’s Emergency Plan – Why You Shouldn’t Wait on The Sidelines
I can’t begin to tell you about the number of men who eagerly await for their former girlfriend’s to return one day. It is difficult to let go and accept the fact that your relationship is over but it is something you must do and you can’t get around it.
If you are screaming right now, “but I want her back” then it is even more important to accept the break up and understand that your relationship is over for the time being.
The last thing you want is to become a punk. You can’t sit around waiting by the phone and praying for her to come back to you! Not only will this destroy your mindset, confidence and self esteem but it can lead to more pain than you are currently going through.
I am not here to tell you that your girlfriend won’t come back, in fact there is probably a good chance the both of you can reunite in time but you can’t be her emergency plan.
What I mean by this is you can’t let her have her cake and eat it to. If she ended the relationship you don’t want her to feel as if she can go out with other guys, date, get into other relationships and then feel if they don’t work out that she can always come back to you.
What does that say about you if you are willing to put yourself in a position where you will be her emergency plan! If it happens once it can happen a dozen times!
I am not saying this to be cruel or for you to be cruel to her but simply for you to see that sitting around and not getting on with your life will probably do more harm than good for your chances to get back together.
Put a smile on your face and get out there again. This doesn’t mean that you have to completely forget about her, hell, it doesn’t even mean you have to grab as many women as you can to numb the pain. All I am trying to say is that you need to put a smile on your face and don’t let your life spiral out of control and allow the pain to grow and develop into an untamed.
Do you want to feel as if your ex will do whatever she wants and can come back to you as if nothing happened? You don’t want to be in a relationship like that where she comes and goes when she pleases.
Tell her that you have accepted the break up and make her think that you have moved on. Go out with friends and family and even get a rumour back to her that you are dating someone or interested in someone, this can make her think twice about whether or not you will be still waiting around for her!