Should You Get Back Together Years After Breaking Up
Losing a lover can be one of the most difficult things we can ever go through. While they say that time heals all wounds, these wounds can quickly be opened up when we bump into an old flame.
Many of us will remember ex girlfriend and the amazing and wonderful times we shared together even if a break up was heated and things ended on a messy note.
Thinking About The Good Old Times
The fact is that many of us will think about old flames and wonder what they are up to and how they are. Almost all guys are guilty of this but this is not to say that there is anything wrong with it, it is completely naturally especially if you once loved the person more than life itself.
What do you do when you bump into one of these old flames or one calls you from out of the blue to see how you have been? Should you call one of them yourself and see how she is just for good old times sake? This is one of the most difficult questions to answer and that’s because there are so many factors to consider.
What Has Bought On These Feelings?
Why do you want to speak to her? Why does she want to speak to you? Are you currently in a relationship, what about her?
Regardless of your present situation it can be quiet easy to start thinking about a former lover and how great it would be to catch up and see how they are, especially if you never completely let go.
The question I often get asked is if couples should get back together years after breaking up especially when things ended badly. While there is no hard and fast rules the first thing you need to ask yourself is why you thinking about the person in the first place.
People can hang onto great times and never want to let them go, sometimes simply the idea about seeing a former flame is enough to make your heart flutter!
Everyone is different and no two relationships are the same but this does not mean that you should let your heart and wishful thinking take over.
If you are keen to speak to a former lover and she what she is up to or if she has gotten in contact with you then you need to play it cool and have no preconceived notions about what will happen.
Approach With Caution!
There are many stories of couples who have gotten back together after being apart for years. Life can make us mature, force us to grow up and become better people. In these cases these couples often see the errors in their ways, what went wrong and exactly what they needed to do to turn things around. Relationships take their toll and happy relationships take a lot of work, there is no escaping this fact.
I can’t tell you what to do and whether or not getting back together is a good idea, what I can tell you is that you need to be completely honest with yourself. Don’t set your hopes high about getting back together, play it cool, play it by ear and most importantly, do not think you can pick up where you left off.
Good luck to you no matter what you decide. I want you to know that it is not impossible to get back together and stay together. There are many couples out there that are now happily married with a family when they were once separated by time, distance or both!