Why Saying Sorry Is Not Always Enough – Why Your Ex Wont Listen to You
One of the biggest mistakes an ex can make is to push and pull for their former lover to come rushing back.
Not only is this one of the biggest mistakes you can make but it can also prove to your ex that the decision they made was the right one.
While it might come as no surprise the your ex wont accept your apologises the cold hard truth is that there is only so much one can take when constantly hearing the words, “I am sorry”.
Stop Apologizing for Everything!
The last thing you want to do is blindly say sorry for everything that you think went wrong in the relationship. Standing up and taking responsibility is paramount to having a happy and successful relationship but those words can quickly lose their meaning when they are constantly repeated our of sheer desperation.
It it so important that you be completely open and honest about your feelings but remember that your ex has their reasons for leaving. Blindly saying sorry and trying to convince them that things will be different if you get back together is a big no no!
As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words, if your ex is ignoring you and doesn’t want to stay in contact with you then you need to respect their feelings. I know you probably feel that you only want them to know how much you love them and how much they mean to you but this can backfire fast.
Time & Space
Time is really what is required right now. While you can’t magically say that your sorry and see your ex come running back you can most certainly destroy any chance you have to reunite. It is time to be the bigger person and accept the break up no matter how much you feel that will kill you inside.
One of the biggest factors right now is showing your ex that you still love them deeply and will do anything for them to be happy. It might sound counterproductive and the complete opposite to what you want especially if you want to get your ex back in your arms! There are a few things you can do to turn things around and they can be extremely effective to make your ex pick up the phone and talk to you.
Making Her Miss You
A great technique is to make your ex miss you desperately by stopping all contact immediately. This will show your ex want it’s like to not have you in their life especially if you have the power to shut them out of your mind and stay strong enough in the process.
It may shock you to know that doing the complete opposite of what your heart is telling you right now can work like magic! What do I mean by that? Well essentially what you want to do is pretend as if you no longer want your ex back and you are happily getting on with life being single.
This can make your ex’s mind race and make them thing that you have met someone else or no longer love them or need them. Making your ex miss you can very effective but you must approach with caution.
While I can not sit here and give you advice about all the things that went wrong in your relationship I can safely tell you that your ex has their reasons. It is paramount that you leave your ego at the door and start thinking with your head instead of your heart.
Stop Feeling So Negative!
Chances are you may have harassed your ex in fear of losing them forever? Have you been calling them constantly or text messaging them telling them how much you love them and miss them? If you are like most people then chances are that is a yes. It is NEVER too late to turn things around and get the odds of reuniting back on your side but you have got to change your approach immediately.
Play it cool, play it with a level head and don’t listen to all those horrible feelings and emotions you are currently going through. Right now you have nothing left to lose and everything to gain. Give your ex plenty of space and time and whatever you do, don’t become an emotional mess. Let the stress and anxiety melt off you as you start the process of making him or her feel that leaving you was a huge mistake.
